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How to start a Conversation with a man?
Fancying a handsome? Yet afraid of approaching him? Don't know what to say? Shyness has enwrapped you and your tongue is curled up? You are confused? You don't know what to utter rather what's worth of utterance? Don't be baffled. The following advices are extremely effective that will make you get through your shyness, and will enable you to cope with the awkward situation and put the right words on your lips!
Stop chattering within yourself
What is the art of conversation? What are the things involved in conversation? The two important ingredients in conversation are speaking and listening. And some intermittent laughs. So simple! Yet so difficult!! Remember that one who is worried about conversation is busy chatting within herself. While chattering in her own mind, she doesn't have time to hear what the other person is talking about. In short, without listening to the other person, you think:
What will be my next words?
Is there any clue of his liking me?
Am I heard/ am I boring?
I am poor at chit-chats!
Listen to what the other person is talking about
Who is able to converse sans effort if he pays much attention to his inner self? Who can participate in conversation while he is preoccupied with answering his own questions? When you notice you are talking to yourself, bring yourself back in the real world, hear what your partner in conversation is talking about.
How to extend the conversation?
The below listed strategies are simple to follow yet they are worth it. They can ameliorate your style of conversation profoundly which even you are going to enjoy.
- Conversation is a way of learning. Know the person. How? Ask him questions about him instead of focusing on yourself.
- Hear his words carefully and convert them into questions.
- When the vice versa happens, meaning when you are asked questions, make sure that you support at least to some extent to the other person's perspective by recalling your own experiences, ambience, etc. Then shoot another question related with the topic being discussed, that way you will be entering into a profound conversation.
A deep rooted conversation can be initiated thus. You can little emphasize on yourself, yet you will observe that the communication is very smooth and your partner is moved by your expertise (??) in conversation!
There's nothing like practice!
The art of conversation is ameliorated simply by practicing. Practice more and more whenever you get an opportunity. Don't hesitate to commence conversation even with the not-the-right person. The more often you talk, the more you gain confidence. Thus encountering new persons can be sport for you every moment! As you start to see yourself able to initiate and continue an interesting conversation over and over again, you gain new confidence in yourself.