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Asking a women out: the Do's and dont's
Whether a single woman accepts your proposal for a date or declines depends largely on your way of asking her out on a date. Moreover, it would add more weight to your proposal if you show a confident attitude that she would say yes to your invitation to go out on a date.
Be positive!
Do not feel negative about it by preparing yourself to hear a "no" ahead of your proposal. This can be dubbed as your diffidence by the woman as not being comfortable around women. If you go with the mindset of refusal, then chances are you will be refused.
The wrong way
Here you will find some examples of how not to ask a woman out for a date. These sentences are steeped in negativism and can show through your proposal making them an instant failure:
- I know that you are highly to be busy on Friday night, but if not then can we go out for a cuppa?
- I don't think you will be free to catch lunch with me on Friday, isn't it so?
- Probably you would not like to share some jokes with me over a drink on Thursday after work, would you?
Do you understand the negative impact of these questions? They would become rhetorical and you would end up without a date. Then again, she might think that she is your second choice for a date, and you have already asked someone out and got a "no" from her. This course of thought on your part may be harmful, even if what she thinks is not correct.
The right way
The best situation would be to make the woman comfortable when you ask her out on a date. Make it simple for them to comply. Plus, keep a positive frame of mind. Begin with the belief that your invitation will be accepted and she in no way can say "no".
In my advice, the best way to ask a woman out is as follows:
- "My friends have been going ballistic about this new Thai restaurant that serves delicious meals. I have never been there. Shall we take a look in there? (This is not necessarily the truth, but a nice way to phrase the time out.)
- I have heard a great play/symphony is gong to make its appearance in just about a week. This can be a good way of spending an evening. Would to like to give me your company?
- A group of my friends are throwing a party at the beach this weekend, and I am one of the invitees. This sounds like a lot of fun and I bet it would be exciting. Would you like to join me there?
By now you must have got the hang of it. These questions do not put any pressure on the woman and are really straightforward on your part. They are so much more pleasing and direct than the negative questions given above, don't you think so too?